First of all : please someone tell me that I'm being overworried or something, but I see Nino in Best Artist 2006 and he got thinner! I want them to get some rest, please! they're as adorable as usual, and Jun with his killer hips and aiba just colored his hair again I think, but I can't stop looking at nino and felt light heart attack.
I read in arashi.vox that nino had been bullied in his elementary year and it still affect him up until now.
I wonder what would he thought seeing news lately. the bullying problem is hot here. students committed suicides, others sent letters to Monbukagakusho and said they would committed suicide or kill people who bullied them. a lot of talkshows talking bout this, I even discussed it in my class.
bullying happens all around the world, but what happened in Japan is very complicated. those who were bullied usually have something different with others, but now, bullying occurs without reason. they also bullies those who are good, have nice attitude, got good marks, you just never know when will be your turn. those who were bullied can instantly turn to bully others. I got confused thinking about this. they came to their teacher and teacher told them to be patient. friends try to stop but they would be the next target. people don't answer to you, put chalk in your lunch, have people saying "you're not human", "this world doesn't need you, go and die" to you everyday, finding your shoes and books missing, etc. if that's the case, how could you ever want to go to school? and what kind of people do those kind of schools produce?
yesterday one suggestion came up : DO the students that bullied others, cause right now the situation is too kind for them. but it was rejected. and I think the problem is not that simple. others said that teacher's position is too weak and they want more rights to do physical punishment. again, this is a very complex situation, and personally, I don't think beating anyone would solve any problem.
Being bullied and being outcast in school... all these are problems I have been through before especially during primary/elementary period. But actually, I think people can easily hurt others without thinking because they are often not the one feeling the pain. I was guilty of that myself sometimes. Carelessly hurting someone through tactless words and stuff.
I think in the end, I could not depend on anyone but myself to stop it. Sometimes, we need to stand up to them. It would be hard though cause the bullying will be even more harsh at first but once they realise they can't hurt you like they think they could, they would eventually move on. That happen in my case. I used to think there must be something wrong with me for people to pick on me or exclude me from their social circle. But often, that was not the case. No matter how it is, they have no right to bully or made me an outcast just because they didn't like something of me. I learnt to love myself and respect myself. It's okay not to please everyone but we must at least be trueful to ourself. It's a good thing this realization came to me quick enough and as I grow up, all these no longer affects me much.
It's sad to know such things are even more rampant now and to such an extreme point though.
投稿情報: rin | 2006/11/30 16:13
YES! please love yourself. I've never see anything like that in my school days(yeah, I'm old), so I'm quite shocked.
It must be hard for teenagers who haven't got any true identity yet. I'm afraid it would affect them as an adult later. I really think you and Nino is strong to be able to move on with life. I'm glad he met Arashi.
投稿情報: hinagiku85 | 2006/11/30 16:32
Well..about being bullied...I have been bullied 10 years ago, not something too serious, but when I was 10, there were some older girls who insulted me, and also one day they beat me and kick me...then..I started not liking school, and when before I was always happy going to school, suddenly I always told my mother I felt ill, this way I didn't go to school..but my dad noticed something was wrong and I finally finished telling everything...he went to the school and waited, then he saw them and yelled at them, my dad is a really strong man..so...they were scared and never came to insult me or kick me anymore.
After that I become more strong, and I try don't get pissed off. ^^
Don't u mind if I add u?
投稿情報: matsubunny | 2006/12/01 04:53
Bullying is a societal problem that is a global phenomenon...it speaks much of the direction that society is headed towards these days...true, physical punishment will not solve the crux of the problem, which lies in the values inherent in society itself.
To eradicate bullying, the human psyche has to be changed too..and like any other negative human behaviour, it's hard to change how people behave. :(
投稿情報: Gwen | 2006/12/01 21:42